Have you ever felt like success is a secret club to which you’ll never belong no matter how hard you try? Do you ever feel like you’re the only one who can’t figure out how to do it all?
I’ve felt that way, too.
Picture this. My career was on the rise. My social circle was expanding. I thought I was replicating the formula for success I observed around me — keep doing more. Until suddenly, at the age of 33, I faced a chronically undiagnosed illness. I didn’t know what to call it, and neither did a team of five doctors.
Despite diet and exercise, I gained weight, lost color in my skin and in my eyes, and watched my energy drain away. Who was I? What was I becoming? What exactly was wrong with me? And how could I possibly sustain the formula for success I learned years prior — do more to be more?
Through the confusion, the fatigue, and the haze, I kept working, doing, being and achieving — sacrificing my health, my relationships….myself. A last-ditch trip to an unorthodox doctor helped me to face a crossroads in my life — identifying the childhood reason for my poor health — and helping me to turn my life around.
As a recovering overachiever, my journey through medical misdiagnosis left me wondering, “What more can I do?” The key to my success — and to yours — wasn’t tied to my determination, my ambition or my relationships. I had to simplify and adopt a powerful new formula for creating a life without regrets. That simple realization led me to discover a three step process that has transformed my life, my relationships, and my health.
Now I’m sharing that formula with you in my new book, Success With Less. Whether you’re trying to make changes in your calendar, your career, your relationships or your health, this simple, straightforward approach will help guide you.
What I learned is that success is not elusive. Success is within reach for everyone, including you. The key is pausing long enough to define success on your terms. And then to release the self-created labels and obligations that keep you from being who you were meant to be. “Less” is about choosing the people and experiences that matter most to you and removing the ones that don’t. What remains is a new definition of success — a success that’s within your grasp.
I invite you to join me and many others on the journey to Success With Less.
This post first appeared on Medium.